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September 29 TrustTrust is important in every relationship. It doesn't apply only to BGR, but also teacher-student, friends, parent-child, colleagues... Too much or too little trust can break and ruin a relationship. I have a true life example. This happened years ago back in secondary school. Let's call this friend X.
X and me were quite close back then. We would chill after school, talking about everything. I had a crush on this guy, let's call him Y. She knew I liked him. I told her everything. She helped me to get his number and I started to talk to Y on the phone almost every night. Slowly, Y was also kinda having a crush on me but we didn't do anything about it.
Then there was once X, me and a group of friends were having a meeting. We took a break and we were bored. X suggested that we call Y to talk. I didn't want to but she insisted. I thought nothing about it and agreed. She called Y and talked to him. I went back to my meeting. In the end she told me she was meeting Y later to talk about me. I thought she wanted to help me "pull string". But I had something on so I didn't go with her. She went to meet him alone.
The next day, my other friend told me he saw X and Y hugging at the shopping mall. Time seemed to stood still. I was stunned. I went to talk to her. And she admitted that she too had a crush on Y. She had also been calling him to chat after Y chatted with me. Woooo.. can you imagine the hurt I felt? In the end they got together and I was not on speaking terms to either of them. My other friends also shunned away from her. This is a case of too much trust in a friend.
But if there was no trust in a relationship, it would also be disastrous. For instance, if a parent does not trust his own child, and always doubt the child; the child will shun away from his parents and may find means and ways to avoid them. Hence, the many cases of juvenile delinquents, cos parents do not trust their children. Same goes to a bf/gf relationship. If there was no or little trust, there would be lots of accusations and suspicions from both parties. This will lead to arguments and quarrels that will jeopardize the relationship. If there was too much trust, one party may take it for granted and start to have frequent flings. This will also lead to jeopardization of the relationship.
How much trust is enough to sustain a relationship? I personally feel that we should give our friends, colleagues, partners, teacher, child, parents, whoever the benefit of the doubt. Believe them and have trust in them. But the moment you feel uncomfortable about his/her actions, do voice it out and have a talk. It'll certainly help clear any doubts and may even forge a closer bond between both parties. =)
That's what I did. haha.
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